Bobby Doesn't Want To Play With Me!!

 feature on Woburn Patch that is part of a new initiative on our Patch sites to reach out to moms and families.

Woburn Patch invites you and your circle of friends to help build a community of support for mothers and their families right here in Woburn.

Each week in , our Woburn Patch Moms Council of experts and smart moms will take your questions, give advice and share solutions.

Moms, dads, grandparents and the diverse families who make up our community will have a for questions about local neighborhood schools, the best pediatricians, 24-hour pharmacies and the thousands of other issues that arise while raising children.

will also be the place to drop in for a talk about the latest parenting hot topic. Do you know of local moms raising their children in the Tiger Mother's way and is it the best way? Where can we get information on local flu shot clinics for children? How do we talk to our children about tragedy? How can we help our children's schools weather their budget cutbacks?

So grab a cup of coffee and settle in as we start the conversation today with a question from a local mom and two answers from our Woburn Patch Moms Council: 

Q: When your child is not invited for playdates or birthday parties, how do you and your child deal with it? 

A: This is a touchy and painful subject, but it is also a life lesson that, as a parent we don't want our children to go through, but it does happen. Being friends with everyone is not a given right and it is painful lesson to learn. I think you need to address it with the child as age-appropriately as possible.  Maybe plan another play-date with another child for that day or a special activity.  Parents do need to be supportive, but, remember, don't be critical of the other child or parent. You don't know the reasons why your child was excluded. Also, try to remember that two wrongs never make a right. 

A: When this happens, I just say those kids are playing together today, maybe you can invite so-and-so over another day to play.  Then we set up a play date with them for another day.  My oldest is 5 years old, so I don't think they ever do it to be mean to someone else.  

What do you think? Join in the conversation and tell us how you would handle this situation using the comments feature below.